"Our three boys are all grown and out of the house."Wait! That can't be right. I must have forgotten to update it after I told you that we had a child back in the house. I searched through all the posts and discovered I HADN'T mentioned that Son Donald had moved back in. Silly me!
Donald left home about five years ago. His main roommate was a friend from elementary school, but others came and went. Most recently he was renting a small house with two other people. One of them had previously moved out, which left Donald with one roommate. A few months later that roommate gave him a couple of weeks notice, then left too. Donald was trying to juggle all the costs by himself, which wasn't working.
One Sunday Donald came for one of his normal dinner/hangouts and asked us if we'd mind having him back until he could regain his financial footing. Hubby Tony and I asked him some questions, which led to a good discussion of rules/responsibilities (for all of us, not just Donald). A week later, he moved his things into one of the empty bedrooms and we had our new roomie.
Donald's been here for several months and so far it's been good. I'm gone during the day; Donald works evenings, so other than Sundays (when we were seeing him anyway) I only connect with him once or twice a week. Some days the only indication I have that another person is living here is when I open the refrigerator and see he's stocked his shelf with food, see his clothes hamper in the laundry room, or find his freshly-washed pile of dishes next to the sink.
The cats especially like having him here. Donald feeds them before he leaves for work, provides a lap to sit on during the day, and an additional bed to sleep on at night.
Five years ago today: New Thing #144--Tropical
I would love to have my children under my roof with us again. Sigh. Mine are so far away. I need to go check my About Me too. I can't even remember what I wrote.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to check up on things now and then :-)
DeleteIt sounds like the re-adjustment is going well for both sides, great you can help out.
ReplyDeleteFrom what I've heard from others who had their adult children move back in, we're very lucky.
DeleteThe cat test is the most important and Donald aced it.
ReplyDeleteAmen!
DeleteGlad it's working out!
ReplyDeleteMe, too.
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