At the end of 2025 I was elected as the communications person for a
fellowship. The position also has a backup, who is appointed from people who
express an interest.
In every other role I've volunteered for in this organization the two people
worked together as a team. This time Backup was a lovely person, but I quickly
found that when they said they would do something they wouldn't follow through.
Emails, texts, and phone calls went unanswered (sometimes for weeks). Eventually
I started doing things on my own, copying Backup on any emails I sent to keep
them in the loop.
One day I was grumbling to someone about the situation, and that person
pointed out I wasn't doing Backup any favors. They suggested I talk with
Backup to explain my position and ask if they understood where I was coming
from.
That sounded like an interesting plan, but I
really dislike
confrontation. What would happen if Backup got angry at me or got defensive
and tried to make me the baddie? How would I follow through?
Backup lives on the other side of the state, so it wasn't feasible to have a
face to face conversation. I procrastinated making a phone call for
almost a week, but eventually I put on my big girl panties and did
it. The call went to voice mail, but I got a call back a couple of hours
later.
During our chat I was factual, telling them I needed someone who communicated
well and followed through when they said they would do something. I asked
them to think about if the time commitments for this volunteer task were too
much for their available time, and assured them no one would look down on them
if they decided to step away.
Two weeks later Backup told me they had decided it was best to step down.
Although I was sorry to see them go, now I can look around for someone
else.
Five years ago:
What Would You Have Done?